Post by Stephanie on Sept 5, 2004 3:10:18 GMT -5
My son (a 2nd grader) was just diagnosed with ADD without hyperactivity as well as a few other things. My brother had a learning disability and suspected hyperactivity (never treated). I figured there was the connection, until I started reading. I have discovered that the apple does not fall far from the tree. I have always made comments on how so much of his personality is like mine. I saw all the negatives and related to them, though still seeing them as personality flaws that had no explanaiton. I feared he would have the same struggles I had growing up. I knew there was some serious problems going on with him (he also has sensory integration dysfunction) but when he was younger I couldn't convince the doctor it was more than normal preschooler stuff. Anyway, I never suspected ADHD and neither did the school, because he wasn't hyperactive, though fidgety, and he is super smart. He can read for hours so I didn't see the inattentiveness.
Here I am going on and not knowing how to get all the info in my head in any kind of order. Anyway, while researching for his diagnosis I have realized that I probably have ADD without hyperactivity too. I laugh now because I could never understand his forgetfullness and lack of focus on simple tasks. But then I started putting it together as I made it up the stairs to only realize that I didn't know what I went up there to look for and had to pause and think (real hard).
I am just getting started on getting him help with meds and the school and I feel all my energy needs to be focused there before I look into this for myself. But then I am also thinking how am I going to manage his situation effectively. Everything I do is so half asked. I know and want to do more but I freeze. So with that being said I know I should get help too. But there is knowing and there is doing. I am afraid to bring this up with my husband. I am afraid he will see it as an excuse or that I am pulling something out of thin air, making this about myself and not my son. Also, money is tight and we have had to put a lot forth for my son's evaluations. I am not sure I can afford to get help under our current insurance. We are considering going back to the HMO that does not have a deductable like our current PPO. That will mean waiting till the new year to seek help.
If you were able to follow this at all. I would welcome feedback.
Here I am going on and not knowing how to get all the info in my head in any kind of order. Anyway, while researching for his diagnosis I have realized that I probably have ADD without hyperactivity too. I laugh now because I could never understand his forgetfullness and lack of focus on simple tasks. But then I started putting it together as I made it up the stairs to only realize that I didn't know what I went up there to look for and had to pause and think (real hard).
I am just getting started on getting him help with meds and the school and I feel all my energy needs to be focused there before I look into this for myself. But then I am also thinking how am I going to manage his situation effectively. Everything I do is so half asked. I know and want to do more but I freeze. So with that being said I know I should get help too. But there is knowing and there is doing. I am afraid to bring this up with my husband. I am afraid he will see it as an excuse or that I am pulling something out of thin air, making this about myself and not my son. Also, money is tight and we have had to put a lot forth for my son's evaluations. I am not sure I can afford to get help under our current insurance. We are considering going back to the HMO that does not have a deductable like our current PPO. That will mean waiting till the new year to seek help.
If you were able to follow this at all. I would welcome feedback.