Boyfriend Advice

[Sarah]

Good Morning,

I feel like I should be asking this question to Dear Abby or something, but I figured I be much more likely to get a response on this board. It's sounds like most of you are married with kids but maybe you can think back to your younger single days and help me out.

I've been dating this guy for a month and a half long-distance. We see each other most weekends and take turns going to each other's places. As you may know if you've read any of my other posts, I was just diagnosed two weeks ago with ADD. Should I tell my new guy about it? And if so how? I'm not embarassed or anything but it's a weird thing to bring up. "So you know how I left half my belongings at your place a couple weeks ago, well thats because I had undiagnosed ADD and wouldn't remember my head if it wasn't screwed on."

Any Suggestions appreciated!

Thanks!

Ps- I only take medicine once a day so it's discreet. He might never know if I didn't bring it up.

[Becky]

Sarah,

If it was me I would wait for your moment. You are right in not being embaressed or anything like that, but bringing it up out of the blue may be a little akward also.

On the otherhand you don't want to be a total scatterbrain and have him think you are flakey or spacy. I think I'd bring it up when he starts to revel bad habits. Then you know he's comfortable with you an you can start to explain some of yours!

Also, be careful when you do tell people b/c not everyone receives it well. Some people I have told ask me if I am unstable or crazy. Others insist it is not real. Although, this does give you a chance to seperate your real friends from the losers.

Becky

[Caitlin]

Sarah,

I think the most important thing to consider is how you would react if he had a negative response. I've told people about ADD, had negative reactions from them and then gotten really depressed about it. And it wasn't like those people were that important to me. So, I don't think its worth telling him if a negative reaction would totally make you feel terrible. On the other hand, if he's a decent boyfriend he could be a great source of support. If you got diagnosed recently its probably on your mind all the time, and it might be nice to share with your boyfriend what's on your mind.
anyway, just some thoughts,
Caitlin

[Sarah]

Thanks Caitlin,

I actually told him a couple months ago and it all worked out fine. Turns out he has ADD too! And not just ADD, he has the exact same weaknesses and strengths that I do. We talked about it for hours. We are either a match made in heaven or a disaster waiting to happen! haha

[mynameisdustin]

What they said..... haha