Unbelieving Spouses « Result #1 on Sept 2, 2005, 12:40pm »
Hi,
I started dating a girl about six months ago, and told her right out of the gate about my ADD. (This was right about the time I had been officially diagnosed and started trying out meds.)
Her mother had depression, and used the diagnosis as an excuse for over medicating herself and to explain away any undesireable behaviors without putting any effort into changing them, so she was very hesitant to support my problem.
Mainly she was worried that I would be the same way, just explaining away the messes and forgetfullness and not trying to fix any of it.
Long story short, I don't take any meds now because neither of us liked who I was when I was on them. I don't see a therapist because I can't afford one, and My girlfriend doesn't really "believe" in ADD, and won't really support me when the symptoms arise.
Does anyone else have this problem? and how do you deal with it?
Re: Meds VS Personality « Result #2 on Sept 2, 2005, 12:34pm »
OK, I know this reply is really belated, but the subject matter hit home.
I was diagnosed about a year ago and went through just about every drug on the market trying to find a good one. When I found the one that worked best (Not to say good, just best.) I stuck with it for a while.
I am an actor and was in an extremely energetic comedy at the time, and I found that not only was I a more boring, dulled down person on the meds, but I didn't have as quick a reaction time, and I wasn't nearly as good at coming up with funny reactions.
I decided that I would try not taking the meds on days I had rehearsals or performances, and that helped, but I still missed that quirky, energetic side of myself that the drugs seemed to suppress.
So now I've been off of meds for a full year, and suffering appropriately.
What would you think? « Result #3 on Jul 18, 2005, 3:17pm »
Hey everyone I know I just Posted because i am a new member. I am having problems at home with my boyfriend. If some of you would please tell me what you think. Here is the thing, My boyfriend works at nights from 4pm-about 6am, when he gets home he gets on the computer and stays on it till about 8am which on no big deal. The thing that gets me is when he has his days off he does nothing but spend time on the Computer. He talks to this one girl which is no big deal but when i walk in the room he hides his IMs with her but no one else he talks to, he has a video of her daughter which he doesn't like kids to much. Does this sound suspicious to anyone? Someone please tell me if its me just being insecure. Thanks Amberleigh
Hello New here « Result #4 on Jul 18, 2005, 3:09pm »
Hello everyone, My name is Amberleigh and I am new here. I am 23 years old. I have a boyfriend who I live with. I have had AD/HD since I was 12 years old, but I thought it went away or I had learned to control it, Until the other day when i wrote my aunt because i was so depressed i thought the only way out was to leave this place i live in. She wrote me back telling me i needed to look into my AD/HD again because i still had it, and i hadn't realized i still had it. Just a little to start off so everyone can get to know me
Help! With irritability and Adderall! « Result #5 on Jun 26, 2005, 10:51am »
Hi, New to the forum here. I have been taking Adderall XR for about 2 mos. 20 mg in am. I have been experiencing alot of irritation towards the afternoon and evening. I am having problems with the yelling and being super irritated over little things. Sounds and such are very irritating. Before I took Adderall I didn't have this, at least not daily! Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can stop this or at least reduce it? I do take Lexapro but I take it at night b/c I don't like the feelings I get when i take the Adderall and Lexapro together...they almost seem to be competing with each other. I need some help! Thx! Sueberry
Re: Non-believers « Result #6 on Jun 21, 2005, 8:34am »
Ditch the guy. Find someone who is more understanding. I just found out I have ADD at 40 - and I know all the pain and suffering I went through...could have been lessened at least, had I had some help when I was a kid. Going through a divorce to someone who is a Special Ed Teacher of all people, who didn't make the connection between all the ADD kids he taught and ME...and he had NO patience for my difficulties. Best thing all around for me was divorcing him. I now have a boyfriend who also has AD/HD and we get along fantastically, we understand each other and support each other, what a difference - I mean, WHAT A DIFFERENCE! You don't say how old you are, I'm guessing late teens? Be careful, once you move out of your parents house you may want to try medication, cause right now your parents are organizing you; once you're on your own it could all fall apart. School is very scheduled and so can be at home, but once you have a job and you're on your own, you don't have a set schedule anymore and it can get pretty out of control if you don't do something immediately. Good luck to you!
Re: Task/Priority Mgmt Hints « Result #7 on Jun 21, 2005, 5:42am »
Hi, new here too...Melinda, I'm with you on writing down things like make coffee, brush teeth...I am thinking of replaicing my walls with white boards in every room ;-)
But seriously, I need to figure out somehting to not only manage ME, but my kids as well, one of whom has his own issues, the other of whom will likely be diagnosed with ADHD in September (she's 5). I don't want her to suffer through life like I did, and I need to figure out how to get organized somehow myself, so I can show HER and teach her some skills! I have a Franklin Covey planner that I forget to take out of my bag at home, I rely on my memory wayyyy too much (yikes!) and was thinking of getting a PDA...hoped to find more success stories here, come on people give me the answer to this problem already. (LOL that was a joke.)
Re: Shooting myself in the foot « Result #8 on Jun 21, 2005, 5:36am »
Hi, I'm also 40 and just finding out I have ADD. For me though it is a relief, finally the WHY for so many things in my life...Anyway, I found out because i think my daughter has it and when I started doing research on it for her, I started seeing things about me...my live in boyfriend is also AD/HD, diagnosed 10 years ago, so he's got a much better handle on it than me, but yeah, our house is a little nuts but I love it. My ex husband was OCD and my life was a living hell; ironically, he was also a special ed teacher and never made the connection til now, when I told him about it and he is now saying ahaaaa. But I think it's great that we both have ADD/ADHD cause we understand each other so well and can laugh. Case in point, this morning right before I left for a bike ride, I asked him to give the dog some water, then noticed the trash needed to go out to the street for pickup. I came back from my ride and noticed the dog's water dish was still empty, so I filled it and IM'd him (he's in his office downstairs) that it's okay, I gave the dog water - but could he put out the trash? And he lol and said you walked right by it...he had in fact put it out and yes, I'd walked right past it. We had a good laugh. Things like that happen all the time; but we know how to work together, and we're easy on each other when the other screws up. He helps me break my "organizing around worry" cycles and is helping me learn some coping skills...finally! Oh, I'm new, nice to meet you all, and sooo very glad to be here!
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Ritalin and Depression « Result #9 on Jun 10, 2005, 9:44pm »
I have recently been severly depressed so much that my girlfriend and boss have told me to get help. I have just started taking anti-depressants. Has anyone else had any similar problems when taking ritalin? I'm worried that the drug that is helping me pay attention is bringing me down. Thanks.
Waiting to start medication « Result #10 on Jun 6, 2005, 11:21am »
I am waiting for a referral from a psychologist to have a doctor prescribe medication for me. I believe I am non-hyperactive type 2. I am interested in opinions on the best medication. Any opinions on non-prescription herbal products like Focus or Clarocet are welcomed.
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Sounds and such are very irritating. Before I took Adderall I didn't have this, at least not daily!
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